"You never, never can find yourself as you now describe yourself.
You could never find something that has no existence in reality. So when people, maybe you, say, 'I want to find out who I really am,' you'd better find out first who you am not. (Laughter)"
From a talk given 9/13/1991 Vernon Howard's Higher World -
MP3 CD Volume 32, talk 785, track 5